Our previous generation is correct- we take this parenting thing a little too serious these days. Okay, I do know that bringing up a child is a matter that requires utter most seriousness but that doesn’t mean we must refrain from having fun, does it? It probably does and I have only one thing to blame this phenomenon called monster moms on- peer pressure.
Before you judge me, let me tell you this. My instincts are conflicted by fellow mothers everyday and I am not generalizing or snap judging anyone. Have any of you ever given sugary food to your children with a clear conscience? Mhmm? Neither have I. Apart from knowing that sugar is not a babe’s best friend and justifying it by telling myself that I *hardly* ever give Aarabhi baked treats or candy, I also cringe at the knowledge that health-conscious mothers would never give their children sweet treats every week. Why do I do that? Because internet.
Any parenting website I go to tells me I am wrong if I get my child to bed any time after 9. It tells me I am a bad mother if I give her the iPad, let her watch Monster Math or paint her toe nails when she begs me. I should probably stop listening to the condescending voice in my head but how? How especially when the voice has my best friend’s modulation and my cousin’s accent? So I probably should tune it out, try to go by my instincts. I should practice zen and listen to unwanted advice with as much patience and good grace as I can muster but if the voice gets condescending and passive aggressively points out my shortcomings as a mother (no, I don’t need you to do that. I have myself.), I am done I tell you.
I don’t judge, I will not judge. But I will not sit patiently while you hack my credibility and you shouldn’t either when someone else is. There is enough crap this world throws at us mothers, pitting against each other is not the best way to ride this BS out. We need friends and not frenimies!